Wednesday, January 31, 2007

It's Wednesday - a mundane week. Absolutely nothing happening. Get up go to work, go home, hang with the kid who's been pretty grouchy (still recovering from being sick), go to bed and do it all over again.
Although my husband is off tonight and tomorrow so I'm sure something will happen for me to blog about!
Our pastor did call us and he and his wife would like to counsel us if we'd let them. I think it's a fabulous idea however I'm not sure if I can get my husband to do it. We'll see.
I'm just not sure that we haven't crossed that point of no return. You know things are said and they can't ever be taken back. For example (and this is a stupid example) Tim has always told me that his dad is his beneficiary of his life ins. policy. Uh hello!? What am I supposed to do about your bills? Well, then if front of people he'll say it was a joke but then tell me again and again that it's true. SO at this point I have NO idea what to believe, I would have to see the paperwork to truly believe anything he said about it from this point. See what I mean - stupid... so now make that into something serious or something deragatory about me. I just don't know that I can ever move on or get past some things that have been said even if they were in anger. I don't know, I guess that's what counseling is for right?

3 comments:

Kristi K. said...

I'm learning from some hard fought battles and pain that seems insurmountable that there is no such thing as a point of no return with God. ;)

I'm pulling for you, girl. :) You're stronger than you could ever imagine.

neicybelle said...

wow...maybe you should get your own policy and cover your own butt...you know? just thinking...

PJ said...

You and Tucker are his family. Not his DAD! "A man will leave his mother and father and CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE"??

That type of behavior is really not appropriate. A woman doesn't want to have to wonder whether or not she will be protected and provided for.

I don't think he's a bad person; he just doesn't have his priorities straight.

My pastor gave Jeff and i this passage to memorize and it has greatly helped our marriage.

Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

In other words, say what you mean and mean what you say. Be a person of integrity.

You can still joke around, just not at someone else's expense. If what you say isn't going to build them up, then don't say it! We want to encourage one another, not tear down. And if you have something to say that's negative, make sure you don't attack their personhood. Focus on the behavior you don't like.

Example:
You're a liar vs. you lied.

You guys are supposed to have each other's backs. He's a cop. Cops have partners and you always watch your partner's back. It's the same thing here.

You are supposed to be each other's primary source of support and soft place to fall. THAT'S Godly love.